Comments on: Ache of Transition http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2009/11/22/ache-of-transition/ The Unofficial Blog of John Halcyon Styn Tue, 31 Jan 2012 08:19:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Halcyon http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2009/11/22/ache-of-transition/comment-page-1/#comment-2889 Halcyon Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:10:45 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/?p=2612#comment-2889 I think I also have a skewed perspective because most parents I know have kids in the 0-4 range. From what I hear, the relentless nature of parent duties eases up a little as they grow. (Until they get hooked on meth at 12, of course.) I think I also have a skewed perspective because most parents I know have kids in the 0-4 range. From what I hear, the relentless nature of parent duties eases up a little as they grow. (Until they get hooked on meth at 12, of course.)

]]> By: GamingTheSystem http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2009/11/22/ache-of-transition/comment-page-1/#comment-2888 GamingTheSystem Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:07:59 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/?p=2612#comment-2888 You have to look at it as a revolving door.. some people will become closer, others move closer to other things/people. Nothing says the same and you may very well be looking back years from now thinking how wonderful the friends and relationships you are building this very moment are in the years to come. Embrace those moments for what they were and live in the new moments you create for yourself today. Reflecting is the beautiful part - the melancholy emotions we get is only the urge to want to relive a particular moment in time. Those feelings are not erroneous unless we dwell upon them so much that it hinders the moments we live in today. And for the record.. IMO kids don't change 'the path' of who a person is. People themselves tend to change their path because it's much more difficult to make time for both your kids and the things you need in life for yourself as well. Look at Karpo, look at myself. I'll admit I was guilty of that - and now I've broken from that mold and am in that same revolving door making new friends, drawing upon new life experiences and YOU are one of the people that got me there! <3 ((HUG)) You have to look at it as a revolving door.. some people will become closer, others move closer to other things/people. Nothing says the same and you may very well be looking back years from now thinking how wonderful the friends and relationships you are building this very moment are in the years to come.

Embrace those moments for what they were and live in the new moments you create for yourself today. Reflecting is the beautiful part – the melancholy emotions we get is only the urge to want to relive a particular moment in time. Those feelings are not erroneous unless we dwell upon them so much that it hinders the moments we live in today.

And for the record.. IMO kids don’t change ‘the path’ of who a person is. People themselves tend to change their path because it’s much more difficult to make time for both your kids and the things you need in life for yourself as well. Look at Karpo, look at myself. I’ll admit I was guilty of that – and now I’ve broken from that mold and am in that same revolving door making new friends, drawing upon new life experiences and YOU are one of the people that got me there! <3

((HUG))

]]> By: Brody http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2009/11/22/ache-of-transition/comment-page-1/#comment-2878 Brody Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:33:25 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/?p=2612#comment-2878 It's really a strange, difficult thing when friends have kids- they basically become strangers you talk to on the phone about inconsequential subjects (or listen endlessly to stories about their children). I'm finding that as more and more of my friends start breeding, I'm having to seek out childfree friends. I miss the portion of my friends who've had kids, but I guess I'll see them again in 18 years once the kids are gone. I'm not sure, myself, how to really deal with this transition, besides meeting people like me who don't want kids. Hugs! It’s really a strange, difficult thing when friends have kids- they basically become strangers you talk to on the phone about inconsequential subjects (or listen endlessly to stories about their children). I’m finding that as more and more of my friends start breeding, I’m having to seek out childfree friends. I miss the portion of my friends who’ve had kids, but I guess I’ll see them again in 18 years once the kids are gone. I’m not sure, myself, how to really deal with this transition, besides meeting people like me who don’t want kids.

Hugs!

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