Comments on: Self Doubt, SXSW, & The Evils of Comparrison http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/ Halcyon's Digital Hub Sat, 30 Aug 2008 10:04:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: SXSW Tres « Emily Goligoski http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-880 SXSW Tres « Emily Goligoski Thu, 13 Mar 2008 01:05:42 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-880 [...] well-written reflection on the interactive festival from LifeStudent John Halycon [...] [...] well-written reflection on the interactive festival from LifeStudent John Halycon [...]

]]> By: realist http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-856 realist Sat, 08 Mar 2008 10:36:22 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-856 The problem is you're all taking yourselves far too seriously. Notice how fixated you are an the word 'I'. It doesn't matter what you think you want. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you. You are mistaking your conditioning, the mental construct that you call I with who you really are. You're trying to be something, trying to attain something other than what or who you are. Lose your'self'. A lot of this good feeling new agey stuff is toxic. It's the same old dysfunctional crap dressed up on fluffy language. There's an undercurrent of shared neediness in there. Get over yourselves people. Read Krishnamurti, sri ramana maharshi and eckhart tolle. Don't intellectualize or talk about their teachings. Live them. The problem is you’re all taking yourselves far too seriously. Notice how fixated you are an the word ‘I’. It doesn’t matter what you think you want. It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks about you. You are mistaking your conditioning, the mental construct that you call I with who you really are. You’re trying to be something, trying to attain something other than what or who you are. Lose your’self’. A lot of this good feeling new agey stuff is toxic. It’s the same old dysfunctional crap dressed up on fluffy language. There’s an undercurrent of shared neediness in there. Get over yourselves people. Read Krishnamurti, sri ramana maharshi and eckhart tolle. Don’t intellectualize or talk about their teachings. Live them.

]]> By: Kate http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-850 Kate Fri, 07 Mar 2008 02:31:14 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-850 What a universal feeling we all fall into, you expressed it so well! And the remedies we can try and use to get ourselves out of that downward-comparing-spin, they are just as you described. Are we happy? That's so easy to overlook or think it doesn't matter, or to try and convince ourselves 'maybe I'll be happier when I have...'. I've only just started to realize this, to look inside and find out that I am happy after all, even though I don't have this or that. It doesn't matter if I don't have the newest cell phone, or I don't dress a certain way, because I have people in my life who are wonderful and make me happy and let me know I make them happy. Your post was so wonderful, thank you so much for expressing this and everything I've read of yours - you are honest and true to yourself in a way that seems so hard to find sometimes, you really do touch people. Much love from Canada! What a universal feeling we all fall into, you expressed it so well! And the remedies we can try and use to get ourselves out of that downward-comparing-spin, they are just as you described. Are we happy? That’s so easy to overlook or think it doesn’t matter, or to try and convince ourselves ‘maybe I’ll be happier when I have…’. I’ve only just started to realize this, to look inside and find out that I am happy after all, even though I don’t have this or that. It doesn’t matter if I don’t have the newest cell phone, or I don’t dress a certain way, because I have people in my life who are wonderful and make me happy and let me know I make them happy. Your post was so wonderful, thank you so much for expressing this and everything I’ve read of yours - you are honest and true to yourself in a way that seems so hard to find sometimes, you really do touch people. Much love from Canada!

]]> By: georgette http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-849 georgette Fri, 07 Mar 2008 01:21:42 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-849 We can spend a lifetime being hard on ourselves, for things that are not always possible, or we can spend a lifetime sharing love and happiness, and surrounding ourselves with bliss. Thank goodness we always have the opportunity to stop, breathe, and take the time to look around, and decide that the frame of mind that we have been in has not been in a constructive format, and is not bringing joy, and that if we wish to proceed, and don't want to continue the same frame of mind, we are going to need to change it. I love your heart, and I love that you share! We can spend a lifetime being hard on ourselves, for things that are not always possible, or we can spend a lifetime sharing love and happiness, and surrounding ourselves with bliss. Thank goodness we always have the opportunity to stop, breathe, and take the time to look around, and decide that the frame of mind that we have been in has not been in a constructive format, and is not bringing joy, and that if we wish to proceed, and don’t want to continue the same frame of mind, we are going to need to change it.
I love your heart, and I love that you share!

]]> By: Deva http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-844 Deva Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:53:45 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-844 I think everyone feels this way. It's life. I felt horrible after my Monday… then awesome after yesterday. People affect me. And I affect them. The funk will come… and let it. It just means I feel. And, thank God I do. Some people don’t. All I can do is try to see the beauty and love amidst the sickness… whether it be mine or another’s. I find true happiness in the minute details… the everyday graces…and in the humanity of each other’s “imperfection”. Thank you for sharing… people are more similar than not… so comforting. {Hugs} Deva I think everyone feels this way. It’s life. I felt horrible after my Monday… then awesome after yesterday. People affect me. And I affect them. The funk will come… and let it. It just means I feel. And, thank God I do. Some people don’t. All I can do is try to see the beauty and love amidst the sickness… whether it be mine or another’s. I find true happiness in the minute details… the everyday graces…and in the humanity of each other’s “imperfection”. Thank you for sharing… people are more similar than not… so comforting.

{Hugs}
Deva

]]> By: Kelly Fay http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-843 Kelly Fay Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:15:14 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-843 I'm hosting a "Create a Vision Board Party" soon and would love to read this to my friends who will be there. Our "wants" can get toxic if we aren't careful, and I love the laser like way you make the point of focusing on our path's direction. I think this will be truly helpful, thanks! Have fun at SXSW! I’m hosting a “Create a Vision Board Party” soon and would love to read this to my friends who will be there. Our “wants” can get toxic if we aren’t careful, and I love the laser like way you make the point of focusing on our path’s direction. I think this will be truly helpful, thanks! Have fun at SXSW!

]]> By: Clarence http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-838 Clarence Thu, 06 Mar 2008 03:20:55 +0000 http://www.lifestudent.com/hub/2008/03/05/self-doubt-sxsw-the-evils-of-comparrison/#comment-838 John, This post is hittin' me like the TRUTH! As a SxSW newcomer, I have had these same thoughts (naturally, they existed before -- but SxSW brings things right to Front St. for me!) Yesterday I got down with your HugNation, live, via your chat channel. It was right on time for me, bruh -- participation and all. Honestly, I am surprised to see you drop a real and in effect post like this, because I believe you to be the rockstar you are! But, also because it would be impossible for someone who has achieved and experienced growth as you have to encounter issues similar to myself (who registers on no ones radar at the moment). I dig the positive vibe that you lay down, Halcyon. I look forward to the possibility of our paths crossing at SxSW, because if my path intersects with you, then I will connect with you -- feel me? Strength & Hugs, bruh. Strength & Hugs. John,

This post is hittin’ me like the TRUTH! As a SxSW newcomer, I have had these same thoughts (naturally, they existed before — but SxSW brings things right to Front St. for me!)

Yesterday I got down with your HugNation, live, via your chat channel. It was right on time for me, bruh — participation and all.

Honestly, I am surprised to see you drop a real and in effect post like this, because I believe you to be the rockstar you are! But, also because it would be impossible for someone who has achieved and experienced growth as you have to encounter issues similar to myself (who registers on no ones radar at the moment).

I dig the positive vibe that you lay down, Halcyon. I look forward to the possibility of our paths crossing at SxSW, because if my path intersects with you, then I will connect with you — feel me?

Strength & Hugs, bruh. Strength & Hugs.

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